Attachment Issues

Are you experiencing prolonged sadness, difficulty sleeping or sleeping too much, a change in appetite, a sense of hopelessness, helplessness, lethargy, exhaustion and an overall lack of pleasure or interest in activities you once found pleasurable? Has this been going on for more than a two week period and lasting most of the day, nearly everyday? If so you may be dealing with depression.

Do you find yourself worrying, fearful, restless, unable to concentrate, irritable, tense, easily fatigued, unable to fall asleep or stay asleep due thoughts about the future or something you fear may happen or for completely unknow reasons and are unable to control it? Has this worry impacted your work, home, relationships or social interactions?  Has this been occurring more days than not for at least 6 months? If so, you may be experiencing anxiety.

Have you experienced/ing,   witnessed, learned that a close friend or family member experienced or have constant extreme exposure to traumatic events from childhood, sexual abuse, car accident, racial identity, natural disaster, grief etc, or due to work? As a result do you have nightmares, intrusive thoughts, attempt to avoid thoughts, feelings, external reminders, dissociate (blank out), memory loss, self-worth issues, self-blame, detach from others, unable to experience positive emotions, reckless, always on guard, startle easily, concentration issues and sleep disturbance? Did this begin after the traumatic event and has persisted for more than a month.  You may be suffering with Post Traumatic Stress Disorder.

Do you experience significant issues in intimate and other relationships? Do you fall in love quickly and out of love just as easily? Have you been unable to let down your guard or trust others even without reason? Are you self- destructive or take unhealthy risks in romantic and friend relationships? Have you felt too needy or too detached in relationships. Have you been devastated at the thought of losing a relationship or being alone even though the relationship is not healthy? Are you suspicious of the motives of friends and romantic partners without cause? Do you need constant reassurance of loyalty, worth and that the person will not leave? 

This may be a result of your Attachment Style, which is basically how you attached to parents or caregivers in your childhood. Many adult relationship issues are based in whether we had responsive, loving parents, neglectful, emotionally withholding parents or abusive, uncertain, needy parents. 

There are four Attachment Styles: Secure, Avoidant, Ambivalent and Disorganized.



If you think you are struggling with any of the issues listed above, give me a call, let's talk about it. All of the  mental health conditions listed above are treatable and manageable.